My Emotional Birth

My wife gave birth, at home, to our first child last week and soon afterwards a friend wrote us a congratulatory message that simply read: “Now you will know true love.” It wasn’t the first time I’d been told that. Even years ago, before we started thinking about it, friends who had children would tell […]

Why did I marry?

Today, six years go, I got married. On the 1st of February 2010, I formalised my decision to make a lifelong commitment to my life partner. I entered into a legal agreement, signed by both my wife and I, two witnesses and a marriage officer. We did have a wedding party a month later in […]

Love is Pain

Love is Pain. And I’m not talking about sadomasochism or a valentine’s break-up. Nor am I referring to our romanticised ideas of lust and passion. Generally our culture is at a loss for words when it comes to describing real love. I’m talking about the kind of love that is honest, accepting and forgiving, no […]

To Love, Truly, is First to be Alone

Being alone does not mean that you are lonely. And vice versa. Being lonely does not mean that you are alone. Being alone is a simple matter of physical circumstance. A statement of fact. You are not surrounded by people. This is solitude. While being lonely is a state of heart. You feel alone. And […]